It was a brief biased and beautiful peek into what our eventual retirement might look like and let me tell you.. it was amazing!
We slept in, we cuddled, I read and did some gardening, Gunther did some laundry and called Rogers to get us a better internet package, we had lunch and supper together and we noticed a few things.
- Life without kids is quiet. No-one interrupted me while I was reading, no-one wanted to watch T.V. in the room where I had settled myself in, no-one woke me up from my nap by barging into my room. No-one came and told me they were bored or hungry or not feeling well or being picked on or having trouble with the computer. I just read and gardened at my own leisure.
- Life without kids is tidy. G did the laundry and cleaned the kitchen and loaded the dishwasher. I cleaned the powder room and mopped the floors and put 5 baskets of laundry away. And everything we did stayed done. Nobody dug through the folded baskets only to whine that their favourite shirt wasn't clean yet. Nobody came into the kitchen and left snack wrappers and crumbs on the table. Nobody had a hissy fit about how they couldn't fit all their clothes into their drawers. It just got done and stayed done.
- Life without kids is freeing. G and I watched Sin City 2, The Losers and Wanted all without having to listen to Chloe have a hissy fit about how it wasn't fair that we were watching shows that she couldn't (we only have 1 T.V.) We could eat party mix in the family room while we watched our shows because we didn't have to worry about the kids getting Cheezie dust all over the carpet.
- Life without kids is slower. G and I ate whenever we felt like it, puttered as we wanted to and generally just hung out. We didn't have to worry about getting someone somewhere for a play date or activity. We didn't have to make sure Chloe got enough sleep or that meals were on the table at a certain time. There was just a general easy-going feeling to the whole day.
- Life without kids is bountiful. I made a jug of iced tea in the morning and there was still iced tea in the jug when I went to pour myself some hours later. I got to eat all of my steak without having to share it with the kids who always ask for mine. I only had to make eggs for myself so I kept the one that still had runny yolks instead of giving them to Sarah. There was always milk in the jug for my coffee and clean glasses and bowls for my snacks.
- Life without kids is romantic. G and I got to talk without being interrupted; cuddle without having kids come in and want to snuggle with us, have meals together just the two of us; hold hands while we watched T.V. It was like being young again before the kids came and honestly I have forgotten what that was like because it was 14.5 years ago.
- Life without kids was nice.
So I will be perfectly honest and tell you I thoroughly enjoyed my day. But there were two parts of the day that were especially lovely -- When I got texts from Sarah telling me how amazing her trip was and when I got a phone call from Chloe checking in on me to make sure I was o.k. and to tell me how much fun she was having.
Because I love my girls and I love my life with my girls even if it's messy and hectic and loud and involves sacrificing steak -- I just also love the idea that someday this stage will be over and G and I are still close enough and in love enough to enjoy the stage that is yet to come.
Course I might price out some boarding schools just for shits and giggles ;)